Breaking up is never fun. It can throw you into a spiral of depression and despair. Weeks and months may go by and you find yourself still longing for her touch. You really do miss her. You still think about her everyday, but she’s moved on and guess what, now you have to move on as well. Easier said than done, but here’s how to get the ball rolling on your new life without her.
- Get rid of all the memories
You might be tempted to keep her tank top but don’t do it. It’s going to keep her ghost lingering around and stop you from moving on. If you really want to hold onto something, throw it in a box and hide it in your closet. You might discover it down the line and chuckle to yourself about how much you were obsessing over her.
- Get under someone else
One thing you will be missing right away is the intimacy and touch. Humans need to be touched. It’s just how we’re wired. Do whatever you can to sleep with someone else. Go online, go out to the bars and start collecting numbers, call up an old friend. You’re not doing this to get into another relationship, you’re doing this to keep your self esteem up and keep a fulfilling sex life. If you don’t do this, you will be constantly thinking about her, especially when you’re feeling horny.
- Focus on your friends
Call up your friends and plan a dude’s night. It might take a little more effort on your part since you have probably been spending less time with them while dating your ex. There’s a lot more love out there than you think, and your friends always have your back.
- Make a change
This is a chance to start something new. Take up a new hobby, change your appearance, go on a trip. Get some excitement into your life. It will help you get over her when you have all these cool things going on. You are free now, so if there’s something you’ve always wanted to do, now is the time. A lot of people tend to focus on their fitness after a breakup, but anything new and exciting will do.
- Process your emotions
I know you’re probably used to sweeping your emotions under the rug, but they’re just going to come back and haunt you if you don’t taken the time to process. If you feel like you need to cry alone in your room, do it. If you feel like you need to talk to someone, talk to a friend who’s wiling to listen (female friends tend to be more willing), or your mom or sister. You have to know that it’s ok to feel what you feel and after expressing your emotions either verbally or written in a journal, you will be so relieved. It’s a good feeling.